We started considering an engagement party.
We’d like something small (yes, we agreed!), so we thought perhaps a do in the backyard, with a lamb on the spit – OK, you’ll understand why this is considered ‘small’ soon enough, and generally just casual foodz and drinks. That way, we save money we can then blow on the wedding 
Small do, remember.
We started on the guest list. Counting only family, that is, Mr Vexation’s sister, both our parents, Mr Vexation’s grandpa and his wife, my god parents, and our aunties, uncles and cousins (not cousins’ kids though!!), we had 100 people.
No friends. No workmates. No neighbours. No young’uns (except for Mr Vexation’s nephews). Small gathering, remember?
Now of course not everyone who’s invited will show up. A large chunk of our families live out in the bush, farming and stuff, and wouldn’t be able to make it. People are interstate or overseas, and probably wouldn’t make the trip just for an afternoon do. Ok, we didn’t even include the overseas people on the original list. Others simply won’t be able to make it, or won’t want to (losers :p).
We’ve culled down the family members to only the ones likely to be able to make it, who live in our state, but then compensated by adding friends. We’re now at 58 people.
We’re not sure whether to keep culling, or whether it’s safe to add some of the local family back. There’s only one toilet at Vexation Estate; are we going to have to hire more loos? If so, where do we put them? Do we tell people to BYO chairs?
If I’m this distressed over a small engagement party, how am I going to cope with wedding planning?
Ack!
